How to keep your Cool during a Heated Conversation
I have been in this kind of situation quite a few times.
I guess we all have been there.
Heated conversations, meetings, maybe negotiations going downhill, and so on and so forth.
This kind of sh*t happens.
And most often than not, when we look back on the matter, we feel we did wrong.
Somewhere we crossed our line.
Heated arguments never yield anything fruitful.
With the flow of sharp words and intense logic, we tend to miss the bigger picture.
Moreover, having decent control over your emotion is important.
Helps keep your brain straight.
EQ is as important as IQ and we hardly feel like that. People are more focused on “What’s your IQ?”.
Now enough of my rant, let’s come down to the real issue.
What are the few things that you can implement immediately to get some control over your emotion, mainly rage?
( I will discuss things that have worked for me in my real-life situations )
NOTE: THE 1st RULE IS THE HARDEST TO APPLY IN REAL SITUATIONS
Get down to the Basic Empathy
If you can get the perception of the other person then, believe me, you will calm down immediately!
Maybe a big claim, but it does work.
Whatever the situation is, if two people are having different opinions and none of them are okay to give in, then there is either clash or ego
Or
Most of the time, it is a clash between two perspectives.
This is where you need Empathy.
You need to put yourself in the shoes of others in order to get a glimpse of what they are feeling.
And once you emphasize with someone on a situation, you can’t just keep your fight going on.
And that’s how empathy changes people and situations.
Hard, but do try it.
This world needs your empathy.
Keep in Voice in control
One thing that you must have noticed is that the decibels increase with the increasing intensity of a conversation.
People raise their voices to either prove a point or to make sure others understand who is winning!
Voice is one of the very first things that people use to establish power.
Now, when things are heating up, others are constantly shouting or at least raising their voice, you take charge of your voice.
Just keep your voice down and normal!
Don’t raise your voice, maintain the same pace and sound.
Make sure you let yourself and others understand that even though you are absolutely frustrated, you do know how to handle yourself.
Because when you raise your voice, your brain gets signaled that you are in some sort of bad situation, and your very basic instinct of flight or fight triggers.
Thus stopping your logical brain to perform.
And when you keep your voice in check, you tend to maintain your EQ in place.
So, simply just check your voice!
Take a break from the conversation
This is not to say that you get up and get out of that situation.
No.
You take a break from engaging in that conversation.
Take a break — use silence.
Silence in power. Silence shows confidence.
When you STOP feeling that you need people to hear your every “valid” point, then only you regain your power.
People who stopped making sure that people are listening to everything they say are the people who has actual confidence.
During intense conversations it is actually important to take a Pause.
To Stop your brain from running and jumping around.
Let it process things.
A lot of times when you recall past conversations, you tend to find a lot more meaning than what you got during the same conversation.
It is because now your brain actually has the time to process those.
So, let it do its job, at least when things are rough.
Silence has its own way of dealing with emotions! Accept it.
Look, you might think that these methods only work on paper, and you are half right!
Since you will need to consciously practice these before it becomes something like muscle memory! And will take time and effort. Good Luck!
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